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Tracy Gollins's avatar

At last, a reasoned discussion. Shame you couldn’t have had a similarly respectful exchange of views with another human!

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Chana P's avatar

That's amazing! It clarifies the argument AGAINST using a word that was already being used by adult human females to refer to themselves (towit, the word "women"), to refer males who "identify as female" and thus prefer to inhabit the stereotype of what "women are like" and "what women like" and the social conventions and roles society has prescribed for females.

My take:

"Women", or the equivalent in any other language, has for millennia referred to a certain distinct category of human whose physical configuration was designed for the gestation of a baby (and not by a preference for pantyhose and lipstick).

This physical commonality has meant certain shared bodily experiences, and roles originally related to a woman's limitation to the private sphere where the latest baby was waiting to be nursed. And, as a consequence, a certain cultural sisterhood directly connected to the cumulative experience of coping with a society designed by, and expectations and stereotypes invented by, men, and the degrading, traumatizing and all-too-often deadly experience of male dominance.

And then, of course, there's the expectation by everyone that women should really "just be kind" at their own expense.

To say that to be a woman is to actually prefer society's ridiculous stereotypes and expectations of what women are/should be like is a joke, and a complete failure to understand women's experience. So is demanding to get naked in women's private spaces and taking their awards and then expecting be congratulated and catered to for being so "brave". In fact, that's precisely the way the most intolerable men have historically behaved. So no. Think of some other damn word for yourselves, because "woman" is already taken.

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